with Richard Mullender
Former Scotland Yard Hostage Negotiator & Communication Expert
1# Hostage Negotiator: Listening Mistakes Costing You Trust, Deals and Influence | R. Mullender |E69
Former hostage negotiator Richard Mullender reveals why most people listen badly and how better listening transforms trust, influence, and negotiation.
1# Hostage Negotiator: Listening Mistakes Costing You Trust, Deals and Influence | R. Mullender |E69
with Richard Mullender
Former Scotland Yard Hostage Negotiator & Communication Expert
Former hostage negotiator Richard Mullender reveals why most people listen badly and how better listening transforms trust, influence, and negotiation.
What this conversation is about
Former hostage negotiator Richard Mullender reveals why most people listen badly and how better listening transforms trust, influence, and negotiation.
A former Scotland Yard leader in hostage and crisis negotiation, Richard Mullender spent decades in policing where the stakes were often life and death. He now teaches communication and listening skills through The Listening Institute, helping people negotiate better at work, at home, and in high-pressure situations.
Key Takeaways
Most people think they are listening but are actually just waiting to talk.
Body language can mislead you; focus on what people say and how they say it.
Trust is built before a negotiation even begins, not during it.
Understanding that everyone believes they are right changes how you influence them.
Great negotiation is about understanding what the other person values and feels.
The best influencers are often the people who understand best, not those who talk most.
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1# Hostage Negotiator: Listening Mistakes Costing You Trust, Deals and Influence | R. Mullender |E69
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A former Scotland Yard leader in hostage and crisis negotiation, Richard Mullender spent decades in policing where the stakes were often life and death. He now teaches communication and listening skills through The Listening Institute, helping people negotiate better at work, at home, and in high-pressure situations.
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